Seven Things I Learned From Planning My Wedding
I'm an old married lady now, guys. On March 30 I will have been married seven months. Seven!
Clearly that's still "newly wed" territory, so I can't share any tips on how to sustain an everlasting marriage (yet), but I'm celebrating each milestone as they come.
Our wedding was so smooth and so much fun. SO JOYOUS. It actually lightweight pisses me off that I can't wear my dress again. I should be able to throw a cardigan over it and wear it to work. No? O_o
Spending nine months planning for a day that came and went so fast was almost unfair. The planning process was a bear, but I was so pleased with how everything turned out. Here are seven things I learned from planning my wedding:
1. I know a lot of people
Putting together a guest list was the most stressful part of it all. Not only is my family gigantic, and my husband's family enormous, WE WERE ON A BUDGET. We had friends, coworkers and other people in our lives that we invited, but once we maxed out, that was it. We had a number and that's where we drew the line. Even if we wanted to, we simply couldn't invite everybody. That said, we wound up with several #ThatAwkwardMomentWhen moments when people invited themselves to the wedding like, "hey girl, here's the address where you can send my invitation."
2. Sometimes people don't read
Because accurate RSVPs matter, we tried to be as specific as possible. Each RSVP card said the following: "we have reserved X number of seats in your honor." Usually it was two. Sometimes one. And in rare cases, three. That said, we still got a couple of RSVPs along the lines of, "I'll be there and my +1 is Eric and John and Jackie and Frank and Irene! Can't wait!" Ma'am. THAT'S NOT HOW THIS WORKS. Numbers mean things. O______O
3. Photos/Videos are important
If you're looking for places to cut corners during wedding planning, PHOTOGRAPHY AND VIDEOGRAPHY AIN'T IT. Don't iPhone your wedding. These are momentos. Get a photographer and videographer who know what they're doing and will capture everything beautifully. Our photographer and videographer rocked socks! I'm in love with our photos and I will show that wedding video to anyone who will watch because it's awesome and you need to see it. (Yes, I've become that person.)
4. Sh*t Happens
My wedding hair didn't turn out exactly as I had in mind. My husband's boutonniere fell apart when they tried to pin it on. We didn't have time to get pictures on this bridge like I wanted. Mosquitos had their way with me and the bridesmaids when we took pictures in the park. One of our gifted Kate Spade wedding champagne glasses got broken during the reception. I forgot to get a picture with both my parents *facepalm* The flowers didn't quite look as I had pictured in my head. Sh*t happens. It was a great day, anyway.
5. Friends/family are awesome
My mother, my father, my mother-in-law, my sister, my brother, my bridesmaids, my extended family, my new family, our groomsmen, our flower girls, our officiant and so on and so on... they are EVERYTHING. They made the day. My friends who stepped up to coordinate everything on the day-of. My sister and bridesmaids who were my spottieottiedopaliscious angels throughout the whole process. Their love and support and enthusiasm was overwhelming awesome.
6. DJ JayIlla rocks the party every time
7. Photobooths are forever fun